NAVIGATING THE HOLIDAYS: FINDING COMFORT AND PEACE DURING EMOTIONAL SEASONS
The holiday season often brings a mix of joy and nostalgia, and for many of us, it can also stir emotions tied to loved ones who are no longer with us—or those who simply can’t be physically present this year. I recently shared in a video how this year feels especially significant for me, having lost my dad to pancreatic cancer and watching one of my kids leave the nest. If this resonates with you, I want you to know you’re not alone. Let’s talk through some heartfelt, practical ways to navigate this season while embracing both the memories of the past and the connections we still hold dear today.
CREATE NEW TRADITIONS TO HONOR OLD MEMORIES
One of the most grounding ways to honor a loved one is by incorporating them into your current traditions. My dad loved to cook, so this year I’m hosting our extended family for Christmas and thoughtfully planning dishes that remind me of him. This simple act is a way to carry his presence into our celebrations.
Think about what traditions might honor the people you’re missing. Whether it’s cooking their favorite meal, adding something personal to your holiday decor, or sharing stories about them over dinner, these small acts of remembrance can bring comfort and connection.
And keep in mind, it’s not just about those who’ve passed. Maybe you’re missing a grown child who’s moved away or family members who live out of state. There are ways we can create meaningful moments with them, even when they’re not physically at the table.
STAY CONNECTED THROUGH TECHNOLOGY
If being physically together isn’t possible this holiday season, consider hosting a virtual holiday decorating party with your loved ones. Share the joy of transforming your spaces with festive cheer together over a Zoom call, complete with holiday music to set the mood.
For grandparents longing for connection with their kids and grandkids, this can be a wonderful memory-making experience. It’s also a way to make friends and chosen family feel included, especially if they can’t spend the holidays with a traditional family.
PRACTICE GRATITUDE: A FOUNDATION FOR RESILIENCE
Gratitude has been scientifically proven to uplift spirits, and while it may sound cliché, it’s incredibly effective. Consider introducing a gratitude jar in your home. Keep a stack of Post-it notes nearby, and whenever you’re feeling overwhelmed, write down something that lifts your heart.
It doesn’t have to be about the person or situation weighing you down—it could be something unrelated that shifts your focus. Over time, you’ll have a collection of positive moments to revisit, which can be especially grounding during more emotional days.
FIND COMFORT IN FAVORITE ACTIVITIES
Sometimes, giving yourself permission to step away from the heaviness is the best gift you can give yourself. Watch a favorite holiday movie, listen to music that lifts your spirits, or try something entirely different as a joyful distraction—a funny comedy or a relaxing bath can do wonders for your mood.
Self-care during this season also means allowing yourself quiet moments of reflection. Light a candle or create a cozy nook with your favorite blanket where you feel safe and calm. When feelings of sadness surface, don’t be afraid to acknowledge them. By processing those emotions, you create space for healing and the ability to move forward with your day.
PLAN AHEAD FOR EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS
Planning ahead can make a difference for those of us experiencing the “sneaker tears”—the ones that seem to come out of nowhere. Create a go-to spot in your home where you can retreat when emotions hit. Add comforting elements like soft lighting, a warm fire, or your favorite music to make the space feel calm and refreshing.
Remember, it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. Be kind to yourself and allow space for those emotions to come and go.
CREATE NEW MEMORIES RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE
Here’s something I’d like to leave you with: the home you’re in may feel full of memories, and at times, that might feel overwhelming. But those memories came from special moments you created, and that’s something you can do again.
Get creative about making new memories with the loved ones who are currently in your life. From cooking together to hosting family activities, it’s all about fostering joy and connection. Whether your family gathering is in person or virtual, the intention to connect is what truly matters.
This holiday season, I encourage you to meet yourself where you are. Whether it’s a time for honoring those you’ve lost or for cherishing those still with you, creating moments of love, comfort, and peace makes all the difference. Let’s navigate this season together as a community, holding space for what once was while being present for what is still to come.
Keep tuning in—I’ll be sharing more tips and insights on real estate and creating comfort in your home in the weeks ahead. Wishing you a holiday season full of connection and light.
